The role of acceptance

There is some weird ideas out there. Sometimes they are not only out there; sometimes they are in here. Some of the ideas that people bring into the counselling room are extremely difficult to deal with... not for me but for the person holding those ideas.

Accepting that there some things you can change and some you can't is an essential life skill.

As sure as the sun rises and sets every day (so far every day of my life), the idea that I know stuff is beaten out of me regularly. "No", says the client, "that's not how I feel, think, want things..." and I'm forced to step back and let them speak their mind.

The fascinating thing is that they do speak their mind. My job is to let them see that can probably speak their mind to their boss, friend, partner, doctor. you have a right to your idea and you have a  right to say it out loud. Just accept that others may disagree. You can't change them and you can't even expect them to want to change themselves. Good luck if you think otherwise.